tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post1277401373504128416..comments2023-03-23T04:02:09.921-04:00Comments on "The Spice of Life" Book Blog: The Journey to Becoming a Loving Dom: Jake Furie Lapin:UnFair Punishment: An Early BDSM LessonJake Furie Lapinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02556288051224128843noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post-82119489652915108652014-03-19T21:06:00.010-04:002014-03-19T21:06:00.010-04:00wow..it broke my heart to read this!!! What Sister...wow..it broke my heart to read this!!! What Sister Marie did was horrible, no child should have to endure this. I can only imagine how confused Jake must have felt!! Thank you for sharing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15675448765492079546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post-91702623686538107362014-03-04T15:57:58.417-05:002014-03-04T15:57:58.417-05:00I am only thankful that I never went to a Catholic...I am only thankful that I never went to a Catholic school. It was hard enough being judged and ridiculed by peers. I can't even imagine the profound effect a superior would have had on me if I would've endured such treatment. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03935597582912541823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post-44406396062416319542014-03-02T02:04:10.769-05:002014-03-02T02:04:10.769-05:00I'm really affected by this entry. What Sister...I'm really affected by this entry. What Sister Marie put Jake through (and for years!) is very upsetting for me. I agree with some of the prior comments that this was child abuse and a gross abuse of authority. However, at least Jake did learn lessons of compassion from those incidents and he was also able to find his way to an enthralling sexual preference, regardless of the injustices that were placed upon him. Annienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post-45670200560546004892014-01-30T22:01:24.267-05:002014-01-30T22:01:24.267-05:00Thinking more about this and there are two other i...Thinking more about this and there are two other issues that Jake's experience highlights, in my opinion. <br /><br />First, the unauthorized use of physical punishment. This is happening still today in our school systems. It may have been more secretive and possibly supported years ago as well as in religious schools. . .regardless what right does a non parent have to severely punish any child?<br /><br />Second, the unrealistic expectations of nuns/priests to be asexual. I do think that there may be some people who are sexual. However to ask a human who has sexual urges to not have sexual urges is ludicrous. <br /><br />These are very important issues that are still ongoing today.<br /><br />People like Jake who are willing to tell the truth as it happened should be applauded for their honesty.<br /><br />Now it is up to society to in still change . . .Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11989942868083929868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post-54848416767728611932014-01-30T16:51:38.294-05:002014-01-30T16:51:38.294-05:00Unfortunately this is an example of why certain pe...Unfortunately this is an example of why certain people should never be allowed to work in positions of authority, religious affiliations, human services.<br /><br />We do not know the background of Sister Marie...was she forced to be a nun. Did she sexually enjoy punishing children? Was she just a mean person...Not that it excuses her behavior.<br /><br />I applaud Jake for maintaining the knowledge that he had done nothing wrong in the face of taking the punishment. In the face of not being able to tell anyone and in the face of finding his own confusing reaction. <br /><br />In no way do I infer that this was not a difficult life changing experience. . .it is so important to share and process this type of experience. <br /><br />So that others may see themselves in it and realize they are not alone and are not "wrong", a "freak" for their feelings and experiences.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing this...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11989942868083929868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post-15833302525410931462014-01-30T11:44:08.921-05:002014-01-30T11:44:08.921-05:00I think sister Maria was a sadist to do this to a ...I think sister Maria was a sadist to do this to a child. I also think that she had some hidden agenda and her own sexual pent up feelings got the better of her and her outlet unfortunately was a child.There are so many of these cases coming to light these days.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07159594688211681712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post-22911501237553901632014-01-10T17:15:04.016-05:002014-01-10T17:15:04.016-05:00I am AT a loss of words for once
What sister Mari...I am AT a loss of words for once <br />What sister Marie did is just not right in my eyes it is unacceptable.<br />As for your reaction to it I cant explain it every body reacts in a different way <br />Thank you for sharing this story with us Jake Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07828729783321287433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post-53614459868486794422013-12-14T14:01:19.105-05:002013-12-14T14:01:19.105-05:00I can't believe how upset and disturbed I am b...I can't believe how upset and disturbed I am by Sister Marie. I think she was taking out her own personal punishment maybe because she felt she had to pick on someone in order to believe she was saving their soul, or maybe later in Jake's life she found herself attracted to him and punished him for her own desires. She should have been shunned and kicked out of the church. What she did was physical and emotional abuse. I can totally understand that abuse but won't go into detail here. Becoming aroused at the punishment was just a bodies response to attention. Kids crave attention they don't care if it is good or bad attention is key. Thank you for sharing this personal story.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15399834229679728874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post-18875481794434796702013-10-12T12:22:38.443-04:002013-10-12T12:22:38.443-04:00I am not catholic nor did I ever attend a catholic...I am not catholic nor did I ever attend a catholic school but what the nun(s) did to you was inexcusable. I hope God had mercy on her and her soul because you just do not do that to a child. God Bless you!! JackieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post-91418018369862605862013-10-10T00:47:33.087-04:002013-10-10T00:47:33.087-04:00If there is one thing I learned from reading this ...If there is one thing I learned from reading this story is to teach your children to have a voice.I feel saddened to know a young boy was victimized by such brutal punishments and lives with the emotional and physical scars today.Thats child abuse. As for having an effect on choosing a bdsm lifestyle, I dont know. I like aspects of bdsm and Ive never been spanked as a child. As a loving Dom, you say you punish your subs for not following instruction or your wishes ..hmm sounds similar as not following sister maries orders to go to confession. In a twisted way maybe she did influence you to become the Dom you are today. Thank you for sharing. Twitter handle @WannaBeRockStarAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post-80884971100759492292013-10-07T09:25:09.761-04:002013-10-07T09:25:09.761-04:00This right here defined and shaped a young man int...This right here defined and shaped a young man into who he would become. This proves that one moment or series of repeated moments can change you into the person you are to become. I am not saying it as a bad thing either. Sometimes we take negative actions and turn them into postive life choices. To me he turned it into something positive. He may need to play along the line of pleasure and pain but he is also respectful with the way he handles giving out punishments and pain. You take what you are given, learn from it, and chose how it will affect and define you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04886513786304486587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post-4270427549461007462013-10-06T19:31:26.566-04:002013-10-06T19:31:26.566-04:00I went to an all girls Catholic school. I remember...I went to an all girls Catholic school. I remember the nuns making us kneel on the floor to make sure our skirts touched ground. That's how they would make sure it wasn't too short. LOL! Bellsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post-37640091195584917132013-10-04T20:24:12.567-04:002013-10-04T20:24:12.567-04:00I've always heard that there is a fine line be...I've always heard that there is a fine line between pain and pleasure but have never experienced it myself. It is hard to say if Sister Marie's actions helped or hindered Jakes' development into adulthood and even the BDSM lifestyle, but as a young person (only 13) I can imagine that it did leave lasting scars and maybe even trust issues with older females. I do hope that as a Dom he follows through as he has stated with fairness and love and not out of spite.<br />~HMK ;o)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post-41966182273039457872013-10-04T18:26:17.986-04:002013-10-04T18:26:17.986-04:00This all sounds eerily familiar, right down to the...This all sounds eerily familiar, right down to the eroticised response.Gavinhttps://twitter.com/GavinSandalphonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post-75968543113924001742013-10-01T21:16:56.770-04:002013-10-01T21:16:56.770-04:00I can't even imagine the affects Sister Marie&...I can't even imagine the affects Sister Marie's actions had on Jake. I have to question if she hadn't chose that for of punishment would he have chose the BDSM lifestyle, would his inner Dom have surfaced anyway? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998194451534973271.post-21243311831346790672013-09-26T12:16:41.009-04:002013-09-26T12:16:41.009-04:00I also went to catholic school from kindergarten u...I also went to catholic school from kindergarten until the middle of the 1st grade. Sister Patricia, who was my teacher in 1st grade, loved to administer punishment to me although not as bad as Jake painfully endured. She used to hit me for the same things: not sitting up straight, holding my pencil wrong and not starting on the left side of the page of the margin etc. She'd hit her ruler on my desk and thankfully not on me but she would smack me hard on the head though and that was painful too. My parents never hit me so it was a shock to me. I think the only time she was ever nice to me and didn't hit me was when it was my birthday and I brought in cupcakes for the class. On that day she was sickening sweet to me. It didn't last too long because she was back to her mean and spitefulness the very next day. One night I was sitting at the kitchen table with my dad doing my homework, when he scratched his head. I flinched so badly, I feel off the chair and ducked my hands over my head, crying and saying "please don't hit me like Sister Patricia does". That's when my parents found out and immediately pulled me out of the school mid-year and put me into public school. I never understood why nuns hit their students. It angers me that they feel this type of painful punishment will make you learn. I've read about BDSM and I come to the same conclusion, how can you get past the pain and find it pleasurable? bookgirl628noreply@blogger.com